Today I went to the funeral of one of our own Inspiring Women, Vicky Wickens.
She became an Inspiring Angel on Wednesday and I’d like to honour her.
At her funeral today there was laughter and tears from memories and a strong message from Vicky during her funeral to all of us to remember to enjoy the present and live life to the fullest. She had just turned 50.
Her 50th was an incredible party to her family and friends and she made sure it was memorable in so many ways.
She always loved a fancy dress and she had said to dress brightly for her funeral and amidst the colourful dresses and Hawaiian shirts we were united in our memories of this determined lady who finally went down fighting to an aggressive cancer.
Vicky became part of Inspiring Women about 7 years ago and proudly owned a business called Gotcha Covered Timber Shutters that she ran with her husband in Cromer/Dee Why.
Vicky was our very first “Moonlighter” who when I described what a Moonlighting event would be, did not hesitate to say “have it in my factory, I’d love to hold the first one!”.
I remember her talk well during that Moonlighting event as she showed us her marketing plans and cycles for 12 months.
I suspect she inspired many ladies to take their businesses a lot more seriously.
This reflects on Vicky’s enthusiasm, not only for her extraordinary business where she made business and strategic alliances amongst our other members but for Inspiring Women itself in which she claimed should be an exclusive club for extraordinary women.
Vicky was extraordinary and a special member, who loved attending, shared her highs and lows with us with raw honesty and always loved the camaraderie of Inspiring Women who she considered to be her friends.
As is the way with strong, determined women, Vicky made sure her funeral was planned down to the last moment, just as she wanted it.
She truly enjoyed life to the fullest right to the end as she spent the last 8 months travelling through Italy, Vietnam and in Australia with her family.
Flying and travelling first class she well and truly ticked off many items on her bucket list including fitting in a Harley Davidson ride plus plenty more giving her family extraordinary memories.
As her final song was played (appropriately I am Woman by Helen Reddy), her final wish was an Indian tradition of a butterfly release. 12 butterflies were released.
As the Indian Legend Goes;
If anyone desires a wish to come true they must first
capture a butterfly and whisper that wish to it.
Since a butterfly can make no sound, the butterfly can not reveal
the wish to anyone but the Great Spirit who hears and sees all.
In gratitude for giving the beautiful butterfly its freedom,
the Great Spirit always grants the wish.
So, according to legend, by making a wish and giving the butterfly its freedom,
the wish will be taken to the heavens and be granted.
Farewell Vicky, at Moonlighting I will be raising a glass to you in private at each event to say thank you for being part of our lives. I will leave the final words to a woman who messaged me when she read about the funeral, her words sum up Vicky very well.
“I’ll never forget the speech she did at one of the lunches where she’d found her confidence and herself! through Inspiring Woman. Was very inspiring!!”